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What Decision Will I Make If I Didn't Have Any Fear?

decision making life coach shamala tan Sep 30, 2019

Ever experienced a time in your life, whether it is for a project, a job, a relationship, where you are uncertain about when and if it is the time to let go?

We feel all of these tension within our hearts and our heads. We feel the burden of the indecision, we feel stuck, we feel paralysed even. And the temptation to run away is strong. Yet we know we need to face the music.

I’m certain every one of us have been through this. And we start questioning:

Will we regret it if we let go now?
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The Joys Of Thriving Emotionally

emotional state emotional wellness mental wellness Sep 23, 2019

In my last article, we talked about the difference between surviving and thriving emotionally, and why it is important to know the difference and to get on the thriving bandwagon.

Today let’s expand on why it is important to thrive emotionally.

Besides the obvious reasons for peace of mind, emotional stability, happiness etc. There are many other reasons why keeping emotional stability on thrive mode takes us much further in life and is the reason why some people feel “lucky” while others not so...

We Are Only Surviving Emotionally When We Should Be Thriving

emotional wellness Sep 16, 2019

Most of the time when we read anything about survival or thriving, we often think about our finances, about how much money we are making. Today, I like to discuss why it is important to thrive emotionally.

Our emotions play such an important part of our personal development. It comes from a body of energy that simply is about energy in motion. However, what kinds of energy is in motion is as important to our wellness, as it is what kinds of food we feed our physical body. Just as we shouldn...

When We Attack Others, We Are Showing Our Inadequacies

confidence lower ego personal development self growth Sep 09, 2019

Ever encountered people whose personality is all about attacking others and being aggressive, even to their loved ones? And it seemed as if all they want to do is to win or be one-up against you, it is a constant imagery competition for their lower ego.

Or the friend who constantly feels a need to point out your mistakes without you asking them to be your accountability partner. Or worse still, to have the permission of an accountability partner to point out to them their weaknesses and whe...

Our Defensiveness Is Our Weakness

defensiveness psychological health shamala tan strength in silence wellness Sep 02, 2019

Ever had a conversation or an argument with someone, and you ended up being defensive in your position? And you feel wronged, misunderstood, judged and you feel you need to right the wrong. Unfortunately, this becomes a weakness.

Strength comes from a silent resolve to stand by what you believe. Strength comes from your integrity in what you believe. Interestingly, by trying to argue your way out of something, it only shows that you lack the resolve to stand by your word/point/belief. It sho...

The lower ego makes excuses for things we do not want to face

excuses lower ego shamala tan Aug 26, 2019

Ever been bypassed for a promotion, or lost an account to a competitor, or lost someone to a love rival? Yeah? And remember how our minds and emotions come up with the best excuses as to why we didn’t get it?

Sometimes, it is truly because we lost to a worthy opponent and that it was a tight race, and we were both equally good. But most of the time, it is because you were not up to scratch, or not ready, or just do not have what it takes. I know, I’m supposed to be a life coach and I’m suppo...

The Lower Ego Exploits Fear To Its Advantage

fear lower ego Aug 19, 2019

I missed our Monday Coffee last week as I was down with vertigo. My superpower to experience seasickness without going out to sea was working full time.

I learned many things about the lower ego while I was down, and how its main job is to try to put us in a permanent state of confusion through fear.

To cut a very long story short, I’m just going to share the nuggets of insights I gained through my ordeal.

Whenever things don’t go according to what we are familiar with, it is easy...

The Emotional Imaginary Battle We Have With Others

emotional battle emotional projection emotional vulnerability mental strength Aug 05, 2019

Ever experienced a time when you felt emotionally small, or emotionally big? I’m sure you have. This may be something that most people experience with certain people only.

There are some who are under the emotional grasp of their parents, who still feel like a child whenever they are with their parents, even though they are grown, adults. Every little thing said to them will trigger a small child feeling, and a need to be obedient or rebellious, submissive or aggressive, I think you get the ...

How Often Have You Gotten Yourself In A Mess Because You Were Not Mentally Strong?

emotional wellness mental strength Jul 29, 2019

This is an ongoing challenge that most of us face in life! How often have we felt so uncomfortable in the emotional situation and we cannot stand the tension because we were mentally not strong enough.

A sign of mental maturity is the ability to hold tension. To experience the emotional tension and yet not react. Holding allows us space and time to process the situation, without being in a quick hurry to emotionally dump on someone or something.

Some examples of times when we were not ...

Whatever You're Not Changing, You're Choosing.

empowered choice empowering thought of the day Jul 22, 2019

By now, I will assume that you are a little more familiar with how the lower ego surfaces and operates within your own consciousness. And you have probably observed this in others as well. The thing with knowing and understanding how it operates in you is for you to make another choice. Always choose again, and again and again, until you get it. The observation in others is to learn what not to do.

Far too often, we think we don’t have choices in our habits, or choice of words, feelings/emo...

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What Decision Will I Make If I Didn't Have Any Fear?

The Joys Of Thriving Emotionally

We Are Only Surviving Emotionally When We Should Be Thriving

When We Attack Others, We Are Showing Our Inadequacies

Our Defensiveness Is Our Weakness

The lower ego makes excuses for things we do not want to face

The Lower Ego Exploits Fear To Its Advantage

The Emotional Imaginary Battle We Have With Others

How Often Have You Gotten Yourself In A Mess Because You Were Not Mentally Strong?

Whatever You're Not Changing, You're Choosing.

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