Have you ever wondered if you see the glass half-full or half-empty? Whether we lean towards optimism or find ourselves bracing for the worst, understanding our mindset can shape our lives in surprising ways. No matter where you find yourself, everyone has a mix of positive and negative tendencies, and becoming aware of these can help you take steps towards a healthier mindset.

In this article, we’ll explore what it really means to have a positive or negative outlook, how to assess your...

Just Let It Go’ Is Lip Service—Here’s the Truth About Real Healing

I’ve been on the spiritual growth and personal development path for over 25 years. Early on, I was convinced that “mind over matter” and positive thinking would lead me to a more enlightened state. Spoiler alert: they didn’t quite work out that way.

Sure, positive affirmations gave me a temporary lift, but they never touched the deeper traumas and unsettled feelings that kept bubbling...

Have you ever tried opening up about your feelings, only to be met with a dismissive, "Oh, it’s not that big of a deal"? Or maybe someone told you to "just get over it" when you shared something deeply personal? If so, you've experienced psychological invalidation. It’s a sneaky, everyday form of emotional abuse that happens all too often. Sadly, many of us have come to accept it as normal. But guess what? It's not okay, and it's time to break the cycle.

What is Psychological...

In any relationship—whether it’s romantic, familial, or friendship—emotional responsibility plays a key role in keeping things healthy. When people take ownership of their actions and how those actions affect others, relationships have the space to thrive. On the flip side, when people dodge responsibility, blame others, or refuse to change harmful behaviours, relationships can become toxic quickly.

What does emotional responsibility look like? Basically it is how it shapes...

Ever feel like you’re running in circles with someone you love? Like one of you is always chasing, and the other is playing hide-and-seek but forgot to tell you where they’re hiding? Congratulations—you’ve entered the wild ride known as the anxious-avoidant relationship cycle.

This pattern shows up when one person craves closeness (anxious attachment) and the other feels like closeness is an emotional straitjacket (avoidant attachment). It can feel like both of you...

The Role of the Cycle Breaker
Do you feel that your journey is somehow bigger than just your own story? Like you’re carrying more than just your own choices, and instead, you’re holding pieces of your family’s past as well? If so, you may be the one chosen to break the cycle—chosen to end generational patterns and guide your lineage into a future free of the burdens from the past.

Being the cycle breaker is a significant calling. It means facing what others have left...

What Are Blindspots, Anyway?
Have you ever driven a car, checked your mirrors, and still managed to miss a cyclist coming up beside you? That little oversight, the one lurking just out of view, is what we call a blindspot.

But here’s the thing—blindspots aren’t just for the road. We have them in our minds too. These are the mental gaps that keep us from seeing our own flaws, or sometimes even the less-than-perfect behaviours of those around us. It’s like our brains...

Ever found yourself scrolling through social media, thinking, “Wait, am I supposed to be like that?” You know the feeling—those moments when everyone seems to have a strong opinion on who you should be. They tell you how to dress, how to act, and even how to think. Before you know it, you're morphing into someone else’s idea of "you," like a chameleon without the cool colour-changing powers.

But here’s the truth: when you don’t truly know who you are, other...

Have you ever caught yourself reacting in a way that feels, well, outdated? Like you're using a map from 1995 to navigate today's world? That's what happens when old survival habits—those coping mechanisms that once helped us get through tough times—stick around longer than needed. They’re like the security blanket we can’t seem to ditch, even when it's way past its prime. Why do we hang on to these habits and, more importantly, how to let them go with a little grace?

How Much Do You Value Your Life?

We often go through life without truly assessing how much we value our own existence. Sure, we take the usual precautions—locking our doors, eating healthily, avoiding risky behaviours—but when push comes to shove, do we really know where we draw the line? Do we truly grasp the worth of our own lives? Sometimes, life presents us with situations that force us to ask difficult questions about our values, choices, and the very essence of what it means...