When life feels uncomfortable, most of us have our go-to ways of avoiding discomfort. We scroll. We snack. We bury ourselves in work. We pour a drink.

It helps for a moment but not for long.

Because avoiding discomfort doesn’t make it disappear. It waits. And the longer we push it aside, the heavier it becomes.

THE REAL COST OF AVOIDING DISCOMFORT

Think of the times you numbed out after a rough day. Maybe you stayed up scrolling, kept yourself endlessly busy, or reached for food or drink jus...

Almost everyone I know who has an illness or disease has waited for it to happen before they started taking care of themselves. Even then, after the symptoms have subsided, they forget about it and get on with their lives. But usually, whatever was not resolved the first time will come back even stronger the next time, and the next, until… you know what happens next.

We wait until we are exhausted before we rest. We wait until a relationship is falling apart before we talk about boundaries. And...

WHEN FIVE SECONDS COST US OUR HUMANITY

It was early on a Sunday morning. I was out on my walk when I saw an elderly lady crossing a quiet two-lane road. A car approached. Instead of slowing down, the driver sped up, flashed his lights, and honked at her.

She did not move any faster, she could not. She was already crossing at the only pace her body allowed.

And it made me wonder: how much would he really have lost by waiting? Five seconds? Perhaps less. Yet what he truly lost in that moment wa...

Author’s Note:
The events in this article aren’t the kinds most people experience. They’re rare, intense, and often unpredictable, extreme experiences that have shaped my resilience. My Human Design chart shows I’m wired to meet turbulence not to be broken by it, but to bring order to chaos and guide others through it. Some people may doubt stories like these, or even dismiss them outright. That’s fine, I’m not writing for them. I’m sharing because each experience taught me something about stayin...

Have you ever left a conversation feeling more confused than when you started? You were just trying to talk things out. Maybe bring up something that hurt. Or explain how you felt. But somehow, it went off-track and now you are not even sure what the conversation was about anymore.

If that sounds familiar, you might have just experienced something called narcissistic word salad.

What Is Word Salad in Narcissistic Conversations?

Let us break this down simply.

"Word salad" is what it feels lik...

For many people, the idea of walking away from a dysfunctional family, emotionally, mentally, or physically, brings up more guilt than relief. They stay, not from desire, but a deep belief in trying harder. They think they need more forgiveness, understanding, and growth. To them, healing means keeping connections, regardless of cost.

And if that belief is quietly running in the background, no amount of inner work will create the clarity you are seeking. Because you will keep bending over backw...

Spiritual people are often some of the kindest, most well-intentioned individuals you will ever meet. They speak in tones of compassion, use words like surrender and alignment, and genuinely want to live from love. But in many spiritual spaces, something subtle and deeply damaging is happening beneath the surface: emotional immaturity is hiding behind spiritual language.

They may say “I’ve let it go,” when in fact they have shut down emotionally. They may say “I’m holding space,” but avoid dire...

In professional and personal spaces alike, there is often a subtle pressure to make things more palatable. We are encouraged to soften the edges of what we say. To translate emotional depth or complex life skills into bite-sized, easy-to-digest pieces. And for a while, many of us do exactly that, out of habit, politeness, or the belief that we’re helping others understand more easily.

But what I have seen, again and again, is that dumbing things down does not create clarity. It creates stagnati...

 When someone says they are emotionally exhausted, most people assume they are just tired. The common suggestions follow: get more sleep, take a break, go for a massage, maybe take up yoga.

But emotional exhaustion has little to do with rest. It is not about needing more time off. It is about the invisible emotional labour you have been carrying for years. For some, it has been a lifetime of staying composed, agreeable, and helpful, even when they were running on empty.

Emotional Vigilance Bec...

Many spiritually gifted people find themselves asking: "If I can channel, sense energy, and support others, why do I still feel emotionally stuck?"

This is not a flaw in your gift. It is a sign of a missing foundation: Emotional Integration

The Illusion of Spiritual Advancement

In spiritual circle, it's easy to believe that intuition equals growth. That accessing past life memories, seeing auras, or downloading messages must mean you have "done the work". 

But the thing is: Spiritual ability...