Why We Can't Stop Having Problems

Are you tired of having problems, over and over again?

Its as if they never end. When you solve one, another one surfaces. And you start to wonder if you will ever get a break.

The thing is if we stop having problems, life ends. I know this is not what you want to hear.

We all want a life where it is trouble-free and that everything is smooth sailing. But we are never going to get that, as long as we are an evolving species.

Isn't it frustrating?

Well, life is literally like a chocolate cake (or replace this with something else if chocolate or cake are not your things). You know that only the best tasting chocolate cakes are laden with high carbs and high calories. Yes, there are alternatives, but few can match the taste, and in the end, you still feel as if you are settling for less if you ate the alternative chocolate cake.
After the high-calorie piece of chocolate cake, you have to get off your butt and do something. Maybe work out more, or eat less in the next few meals. But you have to do something right? Not doing anything only makes you feel bad about yourself, guilt sets in and it can go on for days or weeks and even years, and it has a compounded effect.

Life is good and delicious. All the good that happens, but they come with challenges as well. And it is in overcoming those challenges that make you feel/see that life as good.

Fortunately or unfortunately, we live in a world of opposites. In comparing the opposites, we get to understand the opposing ends, as well as to know the entire spectrum and degrees of life. One cannot have meaning without the other.

So why can't we stop having problems? If we do, then it is the end.

I am not saying to court problems to feel alive. (Yes some people do this because of imbalances within them) But please allow life to show you, instead of courting them.

One of the best advice I got from one of my previous mentors was: Whenever you face challenges/problems/issues, get excited about it because it is an indication that you're on the next level of growth! With excitement in your heart, you are fueling yourself to face your challenges, and you will be able to enjoy more fully what life has to offer to you.

I remind myself of this advice all the time, and they are true words of wisdom that fuel my days when I need them most.

Also, knowing that everyone is facing a challenge (big or small) all the time and that you are not alone in this, helps tremendously.

All too often, we make the mistake of thinking that we are the only ones with problems, and everyone else seems so problem-free.

I know, it's easy to think that with social media showing only the best of everyone. But remember that as long as the person is alive, they are facing some challenges at that very moment.

© 2019 Shamala Tan

Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer.  Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly level.

One of her success stories as an author is to being featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.

Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.