5 Steps to protect your vibe

On my Instagram, I posted a super short version of these steps, so here’s the complete version:

With the festive season just around the corner, it is also the time of the year that more people get emotionally triggered by their loved ones. Being triggered is not necessarily a bad thing if we look at it from a positive perspective.

All of these triggerings help us to become more aware of our hidden and unresolved emotional patterns. And if we have the right attitude about it, we can ask ourselves, this key important question: what can I learn from this, to empower myself.

Because at the end of the day, it is about ourselves. People trigger us, they trigger what is already inside us. They are helping us see. Now, we may not be able to heal immediately but it makes us much more aware so that we can take this gem as we travel further along our life’s journey, and in time unpack all the stuff we have inside!

While we are all potentially open to being triggered, on the other hand, we also want to maintain some sanity, and not be triggered left, right centre constantly. I know this sounds funny, but if you’re very empathetic or sensitive, this can be a daily reality.

So here are the FIVES steps:

1. Avoid overthinking.
   • I talked about this in last week’s article in greater detail, (so do go to last week’s article after you read this post, the link is below) but here is a summary of what I shared:
   • How often has our overthinking led us to experience frustration, and maybe elicit anger within us, or even experiencing bitterness towards self or others?
   • The thing is this: we do not realise that our thoughts are just thoughts. They may not be true or real. This is something that few people get. They think that just because they think something, it is truth.
   • The truth doesn’t reveal themselves through our overthinking. In fact, the more we think, the more confused we usually become. And it is in this state of confusion, we may find ourselves making major decisions. How do we hope to live a life of peace, clarity and purpose, if the decision was based on confusion?
2. Avoid gossip and drama. 
   • I know this sounds self-explanatory, but gossip and drama are highly addictive, this is why long-running soap operas have such a strong and loyal following. When we get caught up in other people’s gossip and drama, we fuel the already toxic situation. And we lower our own vibe.
   • I personally shut down dramas because it is a negative use of energies and it starts the rotting process of one’s energy system from the outside in. Why do that to ourselves, when we have enough inside of us to degenerate us!
   • I’ve been in relationships where the belief is that to sort things out, we need to dramatise them out. It is painful to be pulled into these sort of situations, feeling drained with no positive outcome.
3. Ignore any opinions that do not enhance your life.
   • Talk is cheap. Very cheap. People are always ready to share their opinions about you, your life’s situations, and so on. You’ve heard this before: at the end of the day, you have to live with the decisions you make, not them.
   • While I value the opinions of some people in my life, still, I will not allow all their opinions to dictate the decisions I make. Because everyone has their blindspots and not all opinions are gold. Opinions are simply that. If they do not enhance your life, just ignore them. If you give these opinions too much power, at the end of the day you will lose yourself and you realise you no longer know what you want.
   • And one practical tip if you ever find yourself struggling, remember that their opinions are not paying your bills!
4. Do not heed the advice of people whose actions and words are not in sync. 
   
   • This is a big blind spot for most people. We often take on the advice of people who don’t know what they are talking about.
   • People who do not walk their talk simply cannot give you the best advice, how could they? While sometimes they may be able to give value in conversations, it does not mean that their advice should be heeded.
   • Would you trust someone who tells you that you need to eat healthily while they are stuffing their own faces with fast food?
5. Do spend time alone, as often as you need to.
   • The amount of time you need to spend alone is really dependent on what kind of person you are. The more sensitive you are, the more time you need alone. To recharge.
   • Sometimes, spending time alone could also mean being out there in the market place eg, a cafe in the hustle and bustle but you’re not participating, you are simply spending alone time, observing yourself and/or your surroundings. This can be highly beneficial for some people because it helps them to find their equilibrium.
   • For some, spending time alone is about total isolation.
   • And perhaps sometimes, it is really a combination of both methods of alone time that help a person thrive.

No matter how you’re feeling right now, whether it is the fall out from covid 2020, or because of interesting planetary alignments, or you’re an empath or sensitive soul, you need to know and understand that there are big impending changes coming, affecting us all on the personal or universal levels.

You probably are feeling them already. So, as more and more people are trying to find their emotional footing in all of these. Are you feeling you need more help To book your private session, go here or drop me an email [email protected]

Protect your vibe!

Article LINK to Is Overthinking a Mental Disorder?

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Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer. Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly level.

One of her success stories as an author is to being featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.

Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.